The dictionary defines Oxymoron as a figure of speech in which apparently contradictory terms appear in conjunction e.g. Falsely true
I like the flexibility it affords to describe some situations that are outside norm, sometimes it is the only way to express the unusual situations and unusual people who seem to beat the status quo. For how else could we explain the silent screams and the deafening silence that is all around us?
The city of London seems to make me think about putting opposites side by side, the sheer glamour side by side with small spaces and the affluence with the squalor.
I have coined the above oxymoron to express my thoughts on the gathering that took place this weekend. People of diverse race, colour, ages, united by faith and one purpose
Watching people standing together and yet knowing that there are more differences beneath the surface, in their expectations, In their journeys, the size of their dreams, their resilience level among other things.
It made me realise that although we may seem to be united with a purpose, the fact remains that we cannot sacrifice our individuality. The beauty of this gathering was the opportunity for individuals to proclaim the same message in diverse ways. I realised that a bold colour in the midst of magnolia, makes such a difference, red in the midst of all blue looks amazing.
Together apart, also because we are a group of people that have taken a stand, this also usually set you apart, sometimes to the point of isolation. Some people have chosen to be inclusive of everything that they stand for nothing at all in order to avoid this isolation.
We have our dreams and ideas but sometimes this may require a period of isolation to develop our ideas, to learn more about ourselves, to work on bridging the gap between where we are, to where we need to be. However we may become so addicted to the togetherness aspect and forget completely about being apart to explore our individuality.
The three days conference gave us a lot of messages, In songs, speeches, conversations and dance even. It came to all the participants as a group but was received and will be applied by individuals. The results will therefore be on different levels according to what was done with the message. This gives me hope and permission to self-reflect and examine how such gatherings has impacted me when apart.
The conference is now ended and the group is dispersed, the next stage is crucial but as this is done apart, we sometime forget to render accountability to ourselves first and then to the channel of people that worked in various ways to make the meeting possible.
I got many lessons but perhaps the one that is going into my pocket book of tips is that there is a place for uniformity but there is even a bigger place for individuality especially in accountability.
I pray you find your individuality and bring it in to the/ a group, this gives a beautiful blend of musicians, dancers, speakers, listeners, servers, good cooks and those with just beautiful smiles. May we function when we are together or apart.
For your consideration