My son is a true reflection of his dad not just in looks but in attitude too😉
This week I have been thinking about how what we believe about ourselves reflect how we relate to others.
If we were blessed to have parents and adults who instilled positive traits in us , we are Likely to grow up confident and able to see good in people. However if we have grown up with so much negativity around us and believed them, we rehearse them and eventually confess that ‘ what we feared most has come upon us. Usually someone said something unkind to us and we believed it and started saying it to ourselves, we say things like ‘Iam so forgetful, Iam so clumsy etc.
Then we have the things we hide from, our childhood fears, we start hearing people saying it about us. We use other people to express what we may be saying to our selves in secret, we become paranoid that people are judging us , they are talking about us, we start in fact to put words in peoples mouth. We keep trying to convince others that we know what they are thinking about us and we are nothing like that. This affects our attitude and our ambition which may cause us to live in mediocrity concluding that people will not receive us or take us seriously.
This can become even worse when we start pointing fingers at people to deflect attention from us, we start plotting against people because we are almost certain they have evil intentions against us. We want to get them before they get us, we suspect every one against us and we can’t trust anyone, We live in fear and sometimes in isolation.
Some of these may sound extreme and far fetched but there are things we need to confront and challenge in order to conquer them.
Sometimes we meet people who just see the good in others, they encourage us to aim for the sky, they have such positive energy around , they reflect what they believe about themselves.
Sometimes we meet others who seem so unhappy, they are suspicious of others, I remember being in a group with a particular woman, she used to say’ the people are not happy, they are saying this and that, eventually it became Apparent that her ‘they’ was her own voice.
As part of the inside out movement we are challenging ourselves to check what our private narration is, what we believe and what we rehearse about ourselves. We know this will eventually become our confession and our attitude towards our family and community.
for your consideration