This year my sister had to undergo a major surgery and as this was her third, we were all praying but also on edge as you do😐. When we all got together this summer we spoke about that fateful day and how we felt individually and collectively, one thing was clear we were very grateful for each other as we all needed carrying at one point. The truth that gives me much joy is that this kind of support doesn’t always come from blood sisters, I have so many sistren and brethren too who are geographically closer to me than my blood family.
This week we have heard many stories, many opinions and many writings on mental health/suicide/people suffering in silence. As we read about the poor and the rich, the famous and the unknown, the adult and the child, those who had faith and those who didn’t, we all ask ourselves why?
My fear is that, this week will pass and we will go about our business and forget about the stories until next year when it is suicide awareness week. We forget how very real and how very close these sad stories are in our communities.
Earlier on in the week, I was upset about something that was said in a conversation, the more I thought about specific words in the said conversation, the more upset I got. It got to the point where my chest was beating faster and I had to lie down for bit, I called my friend/sister and she listened, gave me a few stories of her own from a similar conversation and we eventually laughed about it. What if I had carried on dwelling on it day after day, how bad would it have gotten? What if I had no one to talk to? What if I had chosen not to talk to anyone about this seemingly trivial incident? Chances are I would have probably moved on sooner than later but this may not be the case for the next person, there are things we have no control of but they are plenty we can do around us.
Even as you read this I pray you decide to look out for someone around you, that you listen to someone and I mean actually listen to hear, not listening to respond. May we treat each other better, watch what we say in anger and be intentional about building each other up. May we lean in when we are struggling and may we allow ourselves to be leaned on when we are in a good place. There are no absolutes just what we can humanly do, after all when I lean in and you provide me a shoulder to lean on we create a balance.
For your consideration